""Nm¨m, ¢mÊn ]dbm\mbn Rms\mcp {]kwKw FgpXnbn«pWvSv. CsXm¶p t\m¡n¯tczm?'' jn_p Ahs\gpXnb Hcp sIm¨p{]kwKhpambn km_phns\ kao]n¨p. km_p IuXpI]qÀÆw AXp hmbn¨p t\m¡n. cmPykvt\lamWp hnjbw. Bib§Ä Hcphn[w `wKnbmbn FgpXn h¨ncn¡p¶p. H¶pcWvSp hmNI§Ä¡qSn FgpXnt¨À¯v NnÃd Xncp¯epIÄ hcp¯n km_p AXp XncnsIs¡mSp¯p.
GXmWvSv AcaWn¡qÀ Ignªt¸mÄ B {]kwKw a\¸mTam¡nbn«v jn_p XncnsI h¶p ]dªp: ""Nm¨m, Rm\Xp a\:]mTam¡n. C\n H¶p ]dªpt\m¡s«?'' km_p {]kwKw tIÄ¡m³ sdUnbmbn Ccp¶p. a\¸mTam¡nb {]kwKw hÅn]pÅn hyXymkanÃmsX Ah³ ]dªptIĸn¨pIgnªt¸mÄ km_p ]dªp: ""]Tn¨Xp IrXyambn ]dªn«pWvSv. ]t£ {]kwK¯nsâ Hcp ssÌ h¶n«nÃ. ]mT§Ä ImWm¸mTw ]Tn¨v DcphnSp¶Xpt]mse tXm¶p¶p.''
""H¶pIqSn \¶m¡m³ F´p sN¿Ww?'' jn_phn\v BImw£bmbn. At¸mtg¡pw s\_phpw tkm_phpw jm_phpw IqSn AhnsSsb¯n¡gnªp. {]kwKs¯¡pdn¨v X§Ä¡v D]Imc{]Zamb Fs´¦nepw Nne Sn]vkv Nm¨³ Ct¸mÄ ]dbpsa¶hÀ¡dnbmw. AXmWhÀ HmSnsb¯nbXv.
""{]kwKw at\mlcam¡m³ thWvS BZys¯ KpWsa´msW¶p ]dbmtam?'' km_p tNmZn¨p. Ip«nIÄ ]ckv]cw tNmZy`mh¯n t\m¡n. At¸mÄ km_p Xs¶ hniZoIcn¡m³ XpS§n: ""BßmÀ°XbmWv {]kwKI\p thWvS Gähpw {][m\ KpWhntijw. BÀ¡m\pwthWvSn Hm¡m\n¡p¶Xp t]mse Xosc AcknIamb coXnbn {]kwKn¡p¶hcpWvSv. AXp t_mdmWv. hm¡pIÄ {]kwKIsâ lrZb¯n \n¶phcp¶XmsW¶v tIgvhn¡mÀ¡p tXm¶Ww.''
""AXns\s´Ãmw {i²n¡Ww?'' Ip«nIÄ¡v DÕmlambn.
""{][m\ambpw cWvSp Imcy§fn {i²n¡Ww. H¶mXmbn ]dbp¶ hm¡pIÄ¡pw Bib§Ä¡pw A\pkcn¨v i_vZ¯n thcntbj³ hcWw. ]t£, NneÀ BZyw sXm«v Ahkm\w hsc i_vZ¯n Imcyamb hyXymksam¶pw hcp¯msX, Htc tSmWn kwkmcn¨psImWvSncn¡pw. AXp hnckamIpw. AtXkabw, i_vZ¯n\v Hcp BtcmlWmhtcmlW{IaapsWvS¦n tIÄhn¡msc ]nSn¨ncp¯m³ Ignbpw.''
jn_p FgpXnb sIm¨p{]kwKw km_p Xs¶ C§s\ i_vZt`Z§tfmsS Ah\p ]dªptIĸn¨p. Ip«nIÄ¡v AXp hfsc CjvSambn.
{]kwKw BIÀjIam¡m³ {]tbmKnt¡WvS cWvSmas¯ sSIv\nIv F´msW¶dnbm³ Ip«nIÄ¡v BImw£bmbn. km_p ]dªp: cWvSmas¯ kwKXn CXmWv. tIÄhn¡mcpaambn Ft¸mgpw Hcp t\{X_Ôw (eye contact) DWvSmbncn¡Ww. Hmtcm t{imXmhn\pw tXm¶Ww {]kwKI³ Xt¶mSmWp kwkmcn¡p¶sX¶v. Hmtcmcp¯cpsSbpw apJt¯¡p t\m¡n {]kwKn¡Wsa¶Ã CXn\À°w. Bscbpw {]tXyIw {i²n¡msX Xs¶ FÃmhscbpw {i²n¡p¶psWvS¶ tXm¶Â hcp¯Ww.''
""Cu cWvSp Imcy§fn {i²n¨m {]kwKw H¶m´camIptam?'' Ip«nIÄ kwibw D¶bn¨p.
""CXmWp s_bvkv. C{Xbpw \¶mbm henb Imcy§sfm¶pw ]dªnsæn t]mepw ]dbp¶ Imcy§Ä BÄ¡mcpsS a\Ên Xdbv¡pw.''
""k`mI¼w amdm³ Fs´¦nepw amÀ¤§fptWvSm Nm¨m?'' Ip«nIÄ¡v AdntbWvSp¶ Hcp {][m\ Imcyambncp¶p AXv. km_p ]dªp: ""]dbm\pÅ Imcy§sfs´¶p a\Ên Dd¸ns¨Sp¡pI. At¸mÄ Bßhnizmkw IqSpw. k`mI¼w amdpw. {]ikvXcmb {]kwKIscms¡ BZyw thZnbn ]Xdnbhcmbncp¶p. Hä Znhkw sImWvSv Hcp Imcyhpw \ap¡p t\SnsbSp¡m\mhnÃ. {]kwK¯nsâ Imcyhpw A§s\ Xs¶. NnÃd {]iv\§Ä BZyapWvSmImw. AXp kmcam¡msX \nc´cw {ian¨psImWvSncn¡Ww. A§s\ hnPbw ssIhcn¡mw.''
km_phnsâ hm¡pIfnÂ\n¶v DuÀÖw DÄs¡mWvSv Ip«nIÄ Hmtcmcp¯cmbn {]kwKn¡m³ X¿msdSp¯psImWvSncp¶p. tlmw sse{_dnbn Hcp XSn Ìm³Uv InS¸pWvSmbncp¶p. km_p ]cnNbapÅ Hcmimcnsbs¡mWvSv {]tXyIw ]Wnbn¨XmWXv. hmb\mÌm³Umbpw {]kwKÌm³Umbpw D]tbmKs¸Sp¯mhp¶ coXnbnemWXv ]WnXncn¡p¶Xv. B Ìm³Uv FSp¯p apdnbpsS \Sphn sImWvSph¶n«tijw AXn\p]n¶n Nmcn\n¶mWv Ip«nIÄ {]kwKn¡m³ XpS§nbXv. X§Ä ap¼p ]Tn¨ph¨ Nne D]\ymk§Ä {]kwKcq]¯n ]dbm\mWv AhÀ {ian¨Xv.
HcmÄ {]kwKn¡pt¼mÄ aäpÅhscÃmw t{imXm¡fmbn. km_phpw ssj\nbpw AhtcmsSm¸w tNÀ¶p. Hmtcm {]kwKw Ignbpt¼mgpw aäpÅhÀ ssIbSn¡pw. ]n¶oSv tI«hÀ X§Ä¡p ]dbm\pÅ IaâpIÄ ]dbpw. B IaâpIÄ ]n¶oSv {]kwKn¡pt¼mÄ D]Imc{]Zambn amdp¶p. A§s\ ]p¯³ ]d¼n Hcp {]kwK]cnioe\ ¢mkv cq]wsImWvSp. Ip«nIÄ¡v Hcp amXrI In«m\mbn km_phpw CSbv¡nsS {]kwKn¡pw. At¸mÄ Ip«nIfpw ssj\nbpw ]mÊm¡pw ckIcamb Nne IaâpIÄ! Hcn¡Â km_p {]kwKn¨p Ignªt¸mÄ Ip«nIÄ ]dªp: ""Nm¨sâ {]kwKw H_mabptSXpt]msebpWvSv!''
H_mabpsS XIÀ¸³ {]kwK§Ä Ip«nIÄ Sn.hn. bn IWvSncp¶p. NSpeamb Ne\§fmWsÃm H_mabpsS {]kwK¯nsâ {]tXyIX. AXpsImWvSv tIÄhn¡mÀ¡v t_mdSn¡nÃ. B {]tXyIX AtX]Sn A\pIcn¡msX, X\Xmb ssienbnÂ, kvamÀ«mbn {]kwKn¡m³ km_p Ip«nItfmSp \nÀt±in¨p.
{]kwK]cnioe\¯n \n¶p Ip«nIÄ¡p In«nb AXn{][m\amb Bibw CXmWv: hnjbw \¶mbn Hcp§Ww. {]kwKIcpsS icoc`mj (Body Language) bmWv {]kwKs¯ \nb{´n¡p¶ Hcp {][m\ kwKXn. icoc`mj IdIvSmsW¦n ]dbp¶ Imcy§Ä Ipdn¡psImWvSncn¡pw. ]dbp¶ Imcy§Ä Ipdn¡psImWvSmte {]kwKw hnPbn¨p F¶p ]dbm\mhq.
A§s\, Znhkhpw hoSnsâ AI¯f§Ä Ip«nIfpsS XIÀ¸³{]kwK§Ä sImWvSp apJcnXambn. hoSn\p Xs¶ Ipsd¡qSn DWÀÆpw Poh\pw ssIh¶Xpt]mse tXm¶n.